Surrendering to the Process of Being a Student
Have you ever found yourself questioning whether you belong in the room, wondering if you’re qualified for the role, or struggling to see how you add value to a meeting? I know I have. In those moments, doubt creeps in, whispering questions like, *Am I in over my head? Why am I here?
These moments, though uncomfortable, have taught me an invaluable lesson: the art of surrendering to the process of being a student. As we grow in our careers, it becomes all too easy to slip into the habit of being the expert. We get so used to executing tasks, guiding others, and strategizing that we forget what it means to simply sit back and learn. For many of us—myself included—the role of student feels foreign, even intimidating.
I am, by nature, an executor. I thrive on getting things done, checking off tasks, and delivering results. If I’m not careful, I find myself trying to take the lead in every area of my life, operating as if I’m an expert in everything. But the truth is, I’m not—and I don’t have to be.
What I’ve learned is that in some areas, I excel as an executor, and that’s okay. However, in other areas, I’m still a student—and that’s okay too. Recognizing this distinction has been a game-changer for me. It has freed me from the pressure of needing to be everything to everyone and has allowed me to embrace the growth and development that come with being a learner.
How Do I Do It All? I Don’t.
Instead of trying to “do it all,” I’ve learned to give myself permission to be both the teacher and the student. When I step into a meeting and feel unsure of how to contribute, I remind myself that this might not be my moment to teach or execute. Instead, it could be my moment to sit, soak, and learn.
When I surrender to this process, I shift my mindset. I stop worrying about proving my worth or showcasing my expertise and start focusing on absorbing knowledge and understanding the dynamics at play. This approach not only reduces anxiety but also prepares me for the times when I’m called to step into a teaching or leadership role. By fully embracing the student role now, I build the competence and character I’ll need for future opportunities.
Practical Tips for Embracing the Student Role
1. Change Your Mindset: When you find yourself questioning your value in a room, remind yourself that every space is a learning opportunity. You’re there for a reason, even if it’s simply to grow.. This step is repetitive its not a one and one, you have to actively work at it.
2. Ask Questions: Don’t be afraid to ask clarifying questions or seek insights from others. Curiosity is a hallmark of a great student.
3. Take Notes: Whether in a meeting, training, or casual conversation, jot down key takeaways. Writing helps solidify what you’re learning and prepares you to apply it later.
4. Observe and Reflect: Pay attention to how others lead, collaborate, or solve problems. Reflect on what you can learn from their approach.
5. Embrace Humility: Let go of the need to always be the expert. True growth comes from acknowledging that you don’t know it all.
Surrendering to the role of student doesn’t diminish your value; it amplifies it. When you embrace the opportunity to learn, you prepare yourself for the moments when you’re called to teach. You gain not only the technical skills but also the humility, empathy, and wisdom that make you an effective leader.
So, the next time you find yourself in a space where you’re unsure of your role, resist the urge to over-prepare or prove yourself. Instead, surrender to the process. Allow yourself to be present, to learn, and to grow. Trust that, in time, the student will become the teacher—equipped with both the character and competence to rise to the occasion.
I am rooting for you now and always…
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