50 Shades of Grey-Part I

Let's Talk!! So some of you may understand my love for Fifty Shades of Grey movies and some may not! I am okay with both.

The movies are a series about an inexperienced college student beginning a daring affair with a controlling businessman.

If you are not familiar with Fifty Shades of Grey books or movies, I highly recommend them, I would also recommend that you push yourself beyond the sexual visuals of the movies and dig deeper to search and find a deeper message.

I read the books, watched the movies and fell in love with the story, I honestly felt as though, I had my own Christian Grey at one point of time in my life, which is why I resonate with the story and the book so well.

Allow me to share the things I learned from each movie. Take this journey with me: (I will not share the entire movie detail, just lessons I learned from the movie)

Lesson #1: It is important to learn and connect with individuals from different backgrounds and perspectives.

Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey are from two different worlds.He's a businessman, who is involved in the telecommunications sector, he also invests in agriculture.

She is a graduating senior with a 4.0 GPA, who plans to move to Seattle, Washington after graduation.

Hmmmmmm! What can they possibly have in common? English Literature

Lesson #2: Own your presence.

Christian had his problems (and we all do), but the one thing that I loved about him was that he owned his presence. His presence commanded the respect and he was aware of the power of his presence. I will say that there is a difference between confidence and cockiness.

Confidence is defined as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.

Cockiness is defined as s someone who is overly self-confident and someone who is very arrogant

Be confident in your skills, gifts, talents and yourself!

Lesson #3: Be careful what you ask for.

As cliche as it may sound, in the scene where Christian introduced Anastasia to his playroom, she asked him to open the door. and boy oh boy was she surprised when he opened the door.

Lesson #4: Relationships should be transformational, not transactional.

Anastasia wanted more, Christian just wanted what Christian wanted, when Christian wanted, how Christian wanted. He described himself as a dominant and used the "that's just the way I am" excuse when in actuality he lacked the desire to compromise and willingness to change.

Lesson #5: Peel the layers back.

We must take the time to peel the layers back to understand the core of individuals. The core is the foundation that one must build upon, once you understand the core, you gain a clear understanding of their heart, values, and motives.

Lesson #6: Explore the world

Christian exposed Anastasia to a completely different world. The helicopter rides, penthouse living, chauffeur, now those things did not come without a sacrifice in their instance. My advice is to explore the world and and allow the world to explore you.

Lesson #7: Let people in

Christian held us his guard, his stubbornness and selfishness blocked the love and affection that Anastasia was more than willing to give. God presents people in our life to help propel us, love us, challenge us and to make us better.

Kings and Queens, we all have wanted something that we just could not have before. I personally know what it feels like to be in Anastasia shoes, to be willing to love someone, understand someone, to be willing to sacrifice bits and pieces of yourself for someone and it is still not good enough. IT HURTS!

I can tell you this, as the KingssKids we have God. He has wiped many tears than I could ever count. He has helped me pick up the pieces of my broken heart after I was careless with it. He gave me the strength to fight through another day. He has given me confidence knowing that I am deserving and worthy of love. He put people in my life that could help me carry the burdens when I felt that they were heavy.


It is my hope and prayer that you have enjoyed reading the lessons learned as I have enjoyed writing them.

Stay Crowned Kings and Queens