Redefining Rest
For those of you all that have been rocking with Kingsskid for sometime you know we take the month of December off to rest.
My idea of rest was watching Christmas movies, drinking tea, basking in the Christmas spirit and just breath.. I started to notice something. I started to notice friction.. The friction was between the way that I wanted to rest and the way I was being called to..
I wanted to rest at the level of my old capacity... my capacity had changed so the way in which I rested needed to change as well and that meant that rest needed to be redefined..
Rest wasn't in the movies , they were good movies but they didn't fulfill me like they use to.
Rest became diving into books, finishing the books, basking in the silence and working out, it was not fighting against the friction but finding rhythm within it.
Finding rhythm looks different for everyone but there are some things that are consistent and we will explore those together.
Don't Fight The Friction:
Imagine you are trying to merge onto the highway during rush hour with no opening in sight. Cars sped past, horns blared, and every attempt to inch forward was met with resistance. Your feet hover between the brake and the gas—hesitating, calculating, bracing for impact. You could force your way in, flooring the accelerator and hoping others would slow down, but the stress would be immediate and the margin for error slim.
That’s what fighting friction feels like—pushing against a flow that isn’t yielding. The more pressure applied, the more tense and dangerous it becomes. Yet, just ahead, there was a stretch where traffic naturally thinned. A moment of patience, a slight adjustment in timing, and the same merge became smooth and almost effortless.
The lesson wasn’t about speed or dominance—it was about discernment. Not every resistance is a sign to push harder. Some friction is an invitation to reposition, to wait for alignment, and to enter when momentum and timing work with you instead of against you.
Different Capacities Require Different Capabilities: As the year progressed I noticed there was a depth with my capacity and when your capacity is different so is the capability but I didn't know what the definition of rest looked like with this depth of capacity and capability. So what did I do? I didn't fight the friction I leaned into it and if I am being honest it didn't feel more restful when I did. I felt more annoyed because leaning into it felt more like work than rest. In my leaning into it I also scheduled my non negotiable rest days- these are days where I was selfish because:
I had given
I had listened
I had poured
And during that time I prayed, I worshiped, I cleaned my space, I basked and what felt like friction was an invitation to experience a faithful God in a different way when things seem hard .
Ultimately, I learned that rest at deeper levels doesn’t always look like stillness—it often looks like surrender. It is the courage to stop resisting what feels uncomfortable and to trust that God is present even in the tension. What I once labeled as friction was, in fact, formation. An invitation to encounter a faithful God not just in ease, but in endurance; not just in quiet moments, but in the honest, messy places where growth is taking root. And in honoring rest—true, intentional, sacred rest—I discovered that God was restoring me in ways I didn’t yet have language for, reminding me that capacity expands when we allow Him to define what rest truly means.
